Monday, 27 April 2009

Todays thoughts...

She had a soul – she had life breathed into her. She was breathing- She was living and soon to enter from her world into ours…

Today she is being shrouded and being buried at the foot of her beautiful older brother who passed away aged just 4 years.

Asalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu Sisters,

I feel so horrendous today, I feel very subdued and in a very deep and contemplative mood.

I was given the news that a very close relative who was due to give birth in 8 weeks time very sadly, by Allah’s will, suffered from a miscarriage last night.

I’m left feeling deeply saddened for the mother as 5 short years ago she had to endure the loss of her 4 year old son. I can’t even begin to imagine how she must be feeling… What must be going through her head? What must she be feeling? Not being a mother myself; I can’t even begin to understand this…

I can’t help but think if it was me in this situation God forbid, – I’d be left thinking all sorts, blaming myself, my body, past sins and such 'bad luck'...

Of course luck has nothing to do with it as this was the decree, the qadar - of Allah but…?.... *sighs* I don’t know… Surely that's what you would naturally feel - right? Or wrong….?

Maybe it was Allah’s way of saving her from pain and troubles of what may have been an ill child? A child who would have been best to neot ebeter this world? Gosh...Who knows...

I just feel so bad... I know its sooo easy for me to say, but I really do pray she is given strength and sabr in this testing time for her Insh'Allah... She has suffered much hardship and after harship comes ease (Surah Al Inshirah - 94:5-6)

Mu’adh b. Jabal reported on the authority of Allah’s Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi wa-Sallam) who said "By him in whose Hand is my life, the miscarried foetus will drag his mother towards the paradise, with his navel string if she had shown the patience for the sake of reward from Allah."

Abu Huraira reported that Allah’s Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi wa-Sallam) said "The miscarried foetus that I send before me is dearer to me than a rider whom I leave behind." [Ibn Majah]

Subhanallah - the blessings of a mother whom has suffers such loss...

Gosh I feel so insensitive – it was just last week I was texting her about it and gushing about the good news… I feel awful. I’m quite worried for her actually… and as always will keep her in my duas, even more so now…

I’m sorry for the distressing post ladies, just something I had to get out...
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Have a blessed day Sisters,

Fi Amanillah


  1. Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh dear Sister Jannah,

    Innaa lillaahi wa innaa ilayhi raaji'uun (Truly to Allah we belong and to Him we shall return) I feel sad for that Mother, May Allah grant her the patience and strength to get through this tragedy Ameen. A co-worker of mine recently suffered a miscarriage 2 days before her due date, so sad :'(. But it is the Qadr of Allah and we do not know the reasons why these things happen, its human nature to be sad and to think all these things or all these reasons, but Allah says in the Quran after hardship comes ease. May Allah make it easy for you and your relative, Ameen.

    Love J

  2. Jazkallahu Khairun for your kind words J..
    Gosh 2 days - Heartbreaking.. how is your co-worker now?

    I know a lot of people take the view that how can you be upset over having a miscarriage and i just dont et their thinking!

    A dear friend also suffered a miscarrige and though it was very ealy on in the pregnancy, i along with her felt much sadness as that she lost something that beloned to her - it was a PART of HER whether or not it had entered this world or not...

    Im going to see her shortly and feel a bit nervous... its so hard to say ro do anything to help in these situations.

    Thanks Again J
    Much love!

  3. My co-worker seems ok now on the outside, but I have no idea how she is feeling inside, at first she was not doing too well at all and her husband was equally devastated :(